Having the right general approach can make all the difference.

• Don't keep score! Those you give to will be there when you need something back.
• But do go with your gut -- don't let yourself be exploited or those who don't merit your help get it.
• Don't forget those currencies! Offer them always.
• Reveal your vulnerabilities and connect through them.
• Build your network before you need it
• You can't get what you don't ask for
• Find a path to the people you want to meet through the people you do know